The Importance of Solitude

How many of us actually spend a couple of minutes or hours in the evening alone just to think back to everything that happened during the day – our mood and what the reason was behind that mood, our reaction to what happened, how we responded to everyone and every situation and how the day was overall? Not so many of us, right?


Solitude is not just for reflecting, it’s also the main catalyst that brings about personal growth. People who hardly ever spend time alone don’t get a chance to listen to their own inner voice that helps them make better decisions and they tend to be dependent on others for happiness.

Having some time alone everyday can make a significant difference on how you perceive yourself and how much you can tolerate from people because you will know what is best for you and try by all means to give yourself the best that you deserve.

Everyday we mingle with friends, family and colleagues and their energies rub off on us. There’s always that one colleague or friend who never runs out of things to complain about and there’s always going to be that one person whose vibe is never cheery and in as much as we may think that doesn’t affect us, it does.

Think about how tired you are when you come back home after spending time with many people, even if you didn’t speak much or do any physical activity, you are just tired. That is your mind and body trying to say something to you – you need some time in solitude, you need to be alone to literally wash off the bad energies by taking a bath or shower and by mentally washing them off by thinking of all the good that actually happened during the day and what made you laugh, even if it was a lame meme on social media.

Us humans pretty much run on batteries too and these batteries are in a form of food, laughter, alone time and sleep. Without these, we feel exhausted and we need each one of them to actually survive a normal day.

Start confiding in yourself and have multiple self-discovery sessions with yourself where you ask yourself personal questions and answer them honestly. Solitude bring you closer to yourself, it makes you dependent on yourself, makes you believe in yourself and helps with making better life decisions.

Solitude helps you figure out what’s good for you and you get to critically analyze the people you hang out with to see if they are helping you grow or hindering your growth with their negativity and weird auras.

You get to improve on how you react to situations and prepare yourself for anything too. You also get to evaluate whether you are genuinely happy with yourself and what to do to make it more legit if it isn’t. So from now on, get into the habit of checking up on yourself every evening and watch yourself slowly fall in love with yourself.

by Mbalenhle Khuzwayo

A writer, explorer and creator who enjoys sharing her experiences and lessons. A lover of all things Art and adventure.


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