“Thanksgiving break is when they usually end” they said.
“He’s a football player? Oh, good luck” they said.
It’s no secret that long distance relationships have a stigma. Believe me when I say that they don’t all end – because I didn’t believe it. Without the tears, mileage on my car, blow-up mattresses, and breakdowns our relationship would be different. Weaker. No doubt about it, but I knew it was him and I know it’s him, because I wouldn’t trade a moment of heartache. The mountain top trumps the time exhausted in the valley every single time.
All the sappy quotes and failed experiences forget to mention the bliss of two hour long FaceTime calls with your best friend. I’ve spent uncountable nights on my rug laughing until my stomach hurt because of 2 am delusions and pointlessly crucial conversation. “They” forget to tell you how sweet the first kiss is after the anticipation you’ve built up in your car busts the door open.
Like most things valuable in your life, it comes down to a choice. Your choice. Your decision of it’s value.
Is that person worth your tears just as much as your laughter? Are they worth the time in the car and the commitment to making that relationship work when you don’t feel like it? Are they worth your selfless provision?
If not, maybe long distance isn’t for you. But if you know this is your person, go for it. Go all in.
Because you can. Believe me. The amount of people that doubted the likelihood of our survival through the ominous bridge between high school and college are getting proved wrong.
So stop listening to the voice that’s telling you it might be too hard, you might have to say no to things, that you might not make it. There is nothing more commendable than trying. If you fail, you learn, but if you succeed you get to join the 1%ers. Trust me, it’s worth the risk.
Author: Hayley O’Brien
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Author Bio: I am Hayley O’Brien, the founder of The Daily Read, a blog devoted to positive stories, workouts, recipes, and dares to be kind. I’ve been in a relationship for 3 1/2 years and I love writing about how it can actually work. Who would’ve thought.
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