I think a lot of us are well aware that a person’s worth isn’t measured by their size. Yet despite this, I, like so many others still have my insecurities and self-doubts. I’m comfortable in who I am, but I also am well aware that I am not a small girl by any means.
I was at work the other day, and I got wedged into a particularly uncomfortable conversation between two coworkers: one male and the other female. The male coworker was asking about the new hire, what she looked like, etc. The female looks to me and says, “Well, she might be bigger than Linda.” This immediately upset me because how are you going to use me as a comparison to anyone else?
Why compare bodies, at all?
If you must do so then make sure you use your own body as a measurement for comparison.
The male coworker told me he later said to the female coworker, “But you’re bigger than Linda, so what do you mean?” She then apparently stomped off. All I can think is, well, maybe you shouldn’t comparing people’s bodies in the first place?
It’s bad enough that society sometimes tries to pit women against one another, why do we have to play into that? A person regardless of their body size or type has worth and value and a beauty all their own. They have talents and strengths and things to offer the world. They’re not just taking up space.
But I think it’d be great if we could all be aware of what we’re saying. If something is said that is hurtful even by accident take accountability and apologize for it. No one is perfect, but we shouldn’t become comfortable in hurting others.
Putting down others because you’re insecure and want to feel better about yourself doesn’t make you look better. It just makes you less of an ally, less of a friend, and less of a person anyone likes let alone trusts or wants in their life.
The sad thing is this girl once told me we had unbreakable bond. But how can you be friends with someone and tear them down?
We’ve got to do better for one another than that. We’ve got to be more mindful. Remember, also, that tearing down people and bullying people just because you feel poorly about yourself isn’t acceptable under any circumstance. Just because you’re hurt doesn’t mean you get to hurt others. Work on your own hurt and making your life better without trying to sling mud on another individual.
